Now, let me walk you though three different scenes:
1) A guy spots this beautiful girl, and walks up to her. She turns her head towards him, and he freezes. His mind goes blank, then he walks away, head down, so ashamed of himself. (This has probably happened to you…stop lying. It has).
2) The same guy sees another pretty girl, then walks up to her. This time, he doesn’t choke and musters the courage to introduce himself, then asks for the girl’s name. He goes on and on about where he works, his colleagues, his selfish boss, and so on. He asks for the girl’s number, then weeks later, find out that the girl is even less than interested in him.
3) Months later, (probably after reading this article), he meets another stunning lady. He walks up to her, THEY chat, and then SHE gives him her number. Needless to say, things work out from there on.
Now, you must be wondering to yourself: “WHAT DID HE TELL HER ON THE 3rd SCENE?”
It’s an easy question with an easy yet slightly complicated response: HUMOUR. Now, let’s break these scenes down. In the 1st scene, it is clear the guy has no clue whatsoever on what to say. If you are a guy reading this, you should stop pretending it didn’t happen to you. If you saw a girl you liked but didn’t make a move, you belong to this section. If it’s any consolation, I belonged to that group too.In the 2nd scene, the guy musters the courage to do something. You might be wondering why it didn’t work. One word: HE WAS BORING! (Sorry, three words). Did you notice that HE was the one doing all the talking? You don’t want to dish out all your bottled up feelings to a lady you just met. Work? Don’t you have something better to say?
In the final scene, and this is my favourite, the guy nails it! Notice it said THEY chatted, not HIM. This is because the guy engaged the lady in stimulating conversation, which was covered in humour. And SHE gave him her number.
Now to what he said. As a matter of fact, there is never a list of words you can say to make magic happen. You need to read her mind (crazy, but yes). I never knew I could walk up to total strangers and have their numbers in 6 minutes, but it happened. How? A sense of humour. Ladies just love it when a guy can make her smile, laugh and giggle like s little school girl. It takes out the pressure of being too formal and eases tension.
Take for example, you see a pretty girl standing all by herself, trying to make a call. If you walk up to her, what can you say? You might be thinking of starting the conversation with “hi. I am …. And I would…” Wrong. Don’t do that. Just walk up to her, smile and say:
You: “Excuse me, I see you trying to make a call and someone has been beeping me for two minutes now. It must be you.”
Her: (looking confused, which is normal): Excuse me?
You: “Does your number begin with ‘32’ “
Her: “NO. It begins with ‘78’ “
You: “Then it definitely must be you, cos the number starts with ‘78’ ”
You see what I did there? I move the situation into a completely tense one into a humorous exchange. Now, when she smiles, ask her why she is having trouble calling, then introduce yourself. (Damn! I should write a book on how to get women). Trust me; ladies love a guy with a sense of humour. If you think I am lying, try this. If you are sitting next to a lady, maybe in a cyber café, ask her to read this article. If she doesn’t agree, then tell her to leave the cyber. She has to agree (lol).
Stop being a formal gentleman. Ladies don’t need all those. Well, they may like it, but they won’t fell ATTRACTED to YOU. They will like you, and you may end p in the friend zone (a dead end). Walk out and meet new ladies who are eagerly waiting for a young man to fill them with laughter, and other few good things…
hmmm...intresting!...kinda possible...ok, very realistic!
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